Married at First Sight Season 14 star Alyssa Ellman has stirred up lots of conversation due to her poor treatment of Chris Collette, and MAFS alum Virginia Coombs has weighed in with her thoughts on the situation.
While most MAFS viewers have taken Chris’ side in the drama, Virginia shared some reasons why she feels Alyssa may deserve some grace.
Virginia Coombs defends Alyssa Ellman
Virginia took to her Instagram stories to offer up some insider insight on the Married at First Sight process, as well as speak on why Alyssa may be acting out with her husband.
Virginia addressed the accusations that Alyssa just wants to stay married and participate in ‘the experience’ for screen time, saying, “Some people are saying they think she’s just like wanting to stay in the apartment or wanting to stay married for like screen time. Whether you live in the apartment, don’t live in the apartment, are still together, not still together, you’re still gonna film whether you want to or not. So I don’t think that’s a valid point against her necessarily.”
Giving an example from her season of Married at First Sight, Virginia shared, “Like my season, Chris [Williams] still filmed way later…like he wasn’t in the story anymore, he should’ve been gone, but they need content, and we have contracts so she’s going to still be filming whether she’s at the apartment or married to him or not.”
Virginia Coombs explains why Alyssa may be ‘creeped out’ by Chris
Virginia aimed to remind viewers of how there’s a ‘level of safety that must be considered when being alone with a stranger and sought to suggest that Alyssa may be creeped out by being alone with a stranger for safety reasons.
Virginia expressed, “I think my whole like why I’m saying maybe she’s creeped out by him is because at the end of the day I think y’all forget the cameras leave. They’re not with us 24/7. You are supposed to sleep in the apartment with a stranger. Yes, there’s a few cameras in the living area, but I mean y’all saw on my season those cameras caught some stuff that shouldn’t have been happening. And they say they’re there for safety but unless something absolutely crazy was happening, no one’s gonna come in. Like if you’re getting yelled at in the middle of the night when cameras aren’t there, no one’s coming to save you. So it’s still a stranger and there’s still a level of safety and she is creeped out by him and doesn’t want to be around him in that regard.”
Continuing to sympathize with Alyssa, Virginia shared, “At the end of the day, no one should be forced to be in an apartment or be in a bed with someone they’re not comfortable with. Whether you’re married, strangers, whatever. Like yes you agreed to the experiment, you agreed to get married, but like you’re still a stranger. It’s still someone you’ve known for like literally a couple of days. Yes, they’ve been vetted by like experts but that doesn’t make them any less of a stranger so you shouldn’t be forced to do anything you’re not comfortable with. And I think that’s where she’s maybe looking like a b***h a little bit, is that she’s not comfortable doing things being asked of her and I guess she’s not portraying that the right way or saying that the right way, but he’s still a stranger at the end of the day.”
Virginia also shared that her opinions on Alyssa and Chris may change when she watches their season but reiterated that it’s still important to give all parties some grace.
Do you agree with Virginia’s take on Chris and Alyssa?
Married at First Sight airs Wednesdays at 8/7c on Lifetime.
No one who signs up for this show does so unless they’ve seen how the process works. This is not a dating show it’s MARRIED at first sight. She had her heart set on a perfect Prince Charming and immediately made a decision about Chris without giving him a chance. Spoiled and obnoxious…no wonder she’s still single!
Yes grace can be given when well deserved. She does not deserve it. If she was not ready for the process of marriage, she should have never signed up. Im sure there’s a contract which gives detailed information. She knew what was involved in whether you sleep in the same house or not. Point is she didn’t bother to get to really know or get to know him and kept disrespecting and body shaming him. Truly they really looked good together if was given the chance. What was said does not come from a good person with good intent.
Virginia was also a spoiled brat who wanted to continually party and not be comitted. Alyssa has only cared about herself from day one and continues worry about how she appears. She can forget about ever being married. A guy would have to be crazy to get saddled with her.
Yes accurate description of both woman. At least Virginia was kind.
she kept saying I’m here” as if sitting in a corner being rude was enough,
Of course she supports her…they are cut from the same cloth. Both selfish, entitled, and egomaniacs.
I don’t think she should be commenting at all since she hasn’t watched any of the series. Alyssa was done the minute she saw Chris at the end of the aisle! Her actions has absolutely nothing to do with her being @creeped out” by Chris. She is an immature, spoiled brat who wanted to enjoy the benefits of the “experience” without Chris. She has absolutely no regard for others but is quick to point out that she is “a good person”…NOT!!
Of course Virginia agrees with creepy Alyssa. They’re two nasty peas in a pod.
What did she expect when she signed up for the show. She married a stranger and didn’t give him a chance at all. I think she was in it for the “experience “ and I’m glad Chris said he wanted a divorce.
Extra credit if you count the number of “like” are in this article.
She sounds 13, I mean …. she’s like 13 or something
Her chat with her mom on last nights show, when her mom said she was expecting a cowboy and Alyssa agreed. Multiple comments from day one about how her husband can’t have “gnarley teeth”. She had zero interest in him from the first second she saw him. You could clearly see she was OUT by her facial expressions and when she distanced herself during wedding ceremony. He smiled, she just looked disgusted. She is awful … poor choice for the show. She fooled the experts !!!!!
Alyssa is full of s**t, from the first time she saw him she was checked out, it’s not like she looks all that great and her personality makes her even uglier. I can’t stand her and hope the next guy she needs dog her out.
I don’t buy your view. True, she may not be ready to get intimate, but most of them have not. I can even understand not sleeping in bed together. But she did not even make an attempt to get to know him. She did not give him the benefit of the doubt regarding what his friends told her about him or about the dog and other “issues” that she claimed to turn her off. She did NOT give it/him a fair chance at all. She made up her mind on the wedding day and then used anything she could to justify herself.
I understand living with a stranger and there are things that happen without the camera but to say she hates him, saying he was a cheap car salesman, cutting him down for being a realtor was just plain mean.
Allyssa knew what she was getting into when she signed up for Married at First Sight. She did not make any attempt as she claimed to get know Chris. She let the friends and family statements cloud her mind. She needed to give Chris a chance and stop behaving like a spoiled brat. She needs to remember that beauty on the outside is not the most important thing, beauty on the inside is as well. She also has some underlying emotional issues she needs to deal with before she will be able to accept anyone in her life or anyone will be good enough for her to marry. Get help Allyssa.
I don’t agree. From the day of the wedding, she didn’t like his appearance at all. If you remember before she walked down the isle she said, just hope he doesn’t have snaggle teeth and when he smiled that’s what she saw. Then on the honeymoon, when he was putting on the snorkel equipment she made a comment about his belly. She tried to turn the whole thing around by accusing him of being nasty and arrogant when he first tried to be patient but very much confused. She should have been honest in the first place instead of making him look like the bad guy!
All the nonsense aside, I think most of us agree that safety comes first. But, you didn’t mention one word about how Alyssa treated Chris. Why did she say, I hate him! Why did she look at his arm movements and say, he’s so aggressive? Why did she describe him using curses. You totally missed the mark with your safety comments. It’s like saying, with corns and cuts on your feet from a pair of new boots – but they are a beautiful blue! So you really can’t say anything bad about them.
GMAB. Alyssa knew she would have to live with a stranger. She was very rude and condescending to Chris. Poor Chris tried to please her, but I think she is is really messed up in her thinking. Why would she even think that she should be allowed to live in the apartment, if it was only to party with the others. This is about being married, which she was not interested in. Also, she can say much about Chris’s looks, she really is not very pretty. How could she say that she hates Chris, she doesn’t even know him. Alyssa really needs to get some type of therapy, she is not right in the head.
Where was the GRACE she showed Chris?? Good grief, did anyone expect a reasonable take from this dumb woman anyway??
I feel as Chris was a good guy. She didn’t like his appearance. But it’s not about a person appearance it’s about personality. I just can’t with Alyssa because she’s a liar and Chris never disrespected her, and he’s friends never told her anything to make he not want to be married to Chris. I was happy when he made his decision.
Alyssa you never gave Chris a chance. You keep telling us you are good person keep telling yourself that because you are the only one that beautiful that.You keep saying he is making you look bad no honey you are making yourself look bad . You are rude, ignorant and a big cry baby.You try to turn everything around and make Chris look the bad guy.When all he was with you was patience and kind.I am so glad Chris asked for a divorce . He didn’t deserve that treatment and I wish him the best of luck.
Glad its over ….when did she try she needs help .
No. I don’t agree with Virginia at all. When you sign up for this show, especially with how many seasons are out, YOU KNOW WHAT YOURE SIGNING UP FOR. If you don’t want to be in the same bed- use the spare room. There’s ways to still try in the process without being on the phone with your lawyer after signing the marriage certificate. NOPE.
Sorry Virginia to me is just as bad as Allyssa. Her opinion holds nothing of value
As the old saying goes, ‘birds of a feather flock together’. Virginia defending a totally dysfunctional person is to be expected. I get that Alyssa Ellman might not have liked Chris. But she wasn’t adult enough to live up to her obligations in a civil manner. Her behavior was bizarre. An adult would have gone through the process. Alyssa didn’t even let Chris talk except to make unproven accusations. Sorry, Alyssa and Chris Williams are they Queen and King of MAFS narcissism and Virginia defending Alyssa is totally to be expected given her behavior on her season.
No one’s making her look bad she is bad with no help from anyone. He should have divorced her the first week.
Alyssa wouldn’t even give Chris a chance to get to know her by not even letting him sit by her on the plane to their honeymoon That lets you know she wasn’t into it from the beginning and only wanted a free vacation she was only interested in making friends with the others
And trying to let everyone think she was a good person which you shouldn’t have to keep saying it ACTION SPEEKS LOUDER THAN WORDS!!,
Virginia hasn’t even watched, and she gives an opinion?? Really? Maybe because of the fact she treated Eric so poorly, She thinks Alyssa’s poor behavior is OK. She should watch before she shoots her mouth off. Nobody wants to be treated as c***** as Alyssa has treated Chris. No excuses…. She can tell herself “I’m a good person” as many times as she needs to to look at herself in the mirror. But at the end of the day she is not a good person.